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Low self-esteem (LSE) is a core issue in life. Depression, fear,
anxiety, anger and most other emotions are actually the symptoms
of low self-esteem and not the cause, although they can facilitate its
deepening.
Low self-esteem begins in childhood. The major contributors to low self-esteem are
our parents, our teachers, child-care workers, our grandparents,
siblings, peers, and other relatives and religious
and non religious authorities
in our lives.
Our parents have the best,
and most influential, opportunity to impact and
alter the
view a child has of themselves and thier self esteem
levels.
Parenting style, physical and particularly sexual abuse play
a significant role in shaping critical self-esteem levels and self
image perceptions.
The key qualities contributing to
positive self-esteem appear to be approval
and acceptance by our parents and closest
reference people. Extended family
conflicts, divorce and relationship breakdown are
also sources
of damage to a persons' self-esteem.
I believe that most parents "try" to be good parents.
Unfortunately most parents only have their
own childhood experiences, learnings, intuition, and their own sense
of what they believe will work, to determine how
they treat their
children. Many simply repeat the mistakes
their own parents made, perpetuating a cycle of ever
decreasing self value and low self esteem.
Low self-esteem is a belief and thinking disorder, or " thought
virus", based on the perceived view (Identity) the person has created of
themselves as not good enough, inadequate and useless
- forever.
Unless, and until, this skewed filter of perception
and self Identity of
the not-good-enough Self is
changed, a person cannot effectively address the the negative
thoughts, perceptions, and resultant feelings and
emotions that always seem
to controls their reactions.
Once low self-esteem is formed, the fear and anxiety
that accompanies it, affects everything a person does,
says, thinks and feels and achieves. We all mask it very
well.
Many people chase after
a “pseudo sense of self-esteem” which is created, controlled and destroyed
by the external reaction, acceptance, rejection or opinions of others.
Many, who have low self Esteem, avoid seeking new jobs, initiating
relationships, or learning new skills for fear of rejection
or failure. Many avoid social settings and refrain from
sharing their opinions for the same reasons.
Some isolate,
become people pleasers, and remain passive. Others get
aggressive and cause havoc in their relationships and at
work. All
people with LSE sabotage their lives, and the lives of
others, to some degree.
Some low esteem individuals, behave like underachievers, achieving far less than they
are capable of because they feel paralyzed by fear. Others,
on the other hand, are driven to prove to themselves and others, that they are
adequate and deserving, and become overachievers, possibly
becoming even more successful than they would have, if they didn't
have low self-esteem in the first place.
These overachievers often become
workaholics, sometimes to the detriment of work and their families,
creating relationship problems, health problems and life-balance challenges.
You can not necessarily tell that a person has low
self-esteem because many who have low self-esteem have become experts at
masking their feelings and maintaining the appearance of
control, even though this is not what they feel at their
CORE on the
inside.
Many successful people in high
level careers actually suffer from Low Self Esteem,
though only those close to them are aware of they have
Self Esteem issues.
When people with low self-esteem do something that they perceive as
stupid or inappropriate, they unconsciously run an
internal mental program, or thought virus, instantly
re-creating feelings of humiliation, shame
and suffer from "self-esteem attacks". It's an
unconscious process.
Often during these waves of inner personal self-attack,
they desperately want to run and hide, though this is
often not possible. Some People plummet into self-induced depression and
create pictures of personal devastation. These episodes may last minutes, hours,
days, or even weeks. Their self-esteem issues are
almost killing them, from the inside.
Afterwards they feel even more
embarrassed to face the people who they think (Project) are aware
of their problem and silently criticize or judge them.
Self Esteem is at the core of our daily energy management. Low self esteem
causes leaks in our energy fields which perpetuates low self-esteem
attitudes, feelings and results. It is a draining cycle of ever increasing self-criticism and ever decreasing hope.
Some people with relatively
low self-esteem are at risk for suicide, suicide
attempts, depression, and self hate and other behaviors
that wreck havoc with our lives.
Research reveals that childhood self-esteem issues in
early adulthood are associated with adolescent eating
disorders and with economic outcomes - earnings, continuity
of employment, and final quality of life.
Research also reveals that biological parents can
also exercise a genetic influence in Self Esteem Issues. A part of the difference between the low and
high self-esteem is inherited. This source of biological influence is
significant and substantial and seems that it is the single most important
source of variations in self-esteem so far identified.
Close and loving relationships with others does
contribute positively to feeling and belies relating to self worth and
self-esteem.
At LifeMasters we have developed a powerful effective process to assist people in removing the
effects and impacts of Low Self-Esteem, and an ongoing process to rebuild, reprogramme and regain a persons'
value, worth and personal power.
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